I like this article by Melanie Pinola, that exposes a simple truth about humans. We can become accustomed to just about anything good or bad. Being able to block out bad things in our lives probably helps to make things bare able, but unfortunately we can also become desensitized to happiness.
I recall when I used to travel for long periods of time (months), I would reach a point when I would be looking at something incredible and think …..whaaaa its OK. That was always the point when I would have to stop, take a break from the road and just do nothing. A week later my appetite for adventure and appreciation of the wonders I was lucky enough to see would return.
I guess it is no different to the way lose our spirit of wonder in the process of growing up. It was only last night that I walked away from the sun setting over the ocean, something I would never have done in the past. Why? There were no clouds so it would be less interesting and I was peckish… fussy bugger. Note to self take the few minutes to enjoy the sun set.
Anyway, according to an article in Psychological Science, students who were asked to think about their last 6 weeks of school as short period of time were significantly happier at the end of term, than those who were encouraged to perceive it as a long time.
I guess you get an additional boost if you think of a happy event as being short and then it just keeps on giving? I think I need to go back to rediscovering my childhood wonder.
My wife, our unborn daughter and I spent an interesting hour or so at a baby store on the weekend and it dawned on me. Hardly anything there is for the baby, it is all for the parents.
Let’s face it, all our baby is going to be doing at the start is eat, poop and sleep. On the most basic level; assuming she can breast feed, she’ll require virtually nothing for eating, she’ll need a huge amount of diapers for the poop and a wee box/drawer/bed to rest her weary body. That’s it!
So, that leaves a huge store full of stuff that ranges from very helpful to downright ridiculous and it is all there to make our lives easier (it is a lot of fun poking, prodding and laughing at a lot of the stuff!). Now, given unlimited funds and a home the size of Downton Abbey thee are so many gadgets out there, I think you could go virtually without touching your child at all. However, if I had that I would probably prefer a nanny and a night nurse, so my daughter is surrounded by people rather than gadgets.
Of course, the is the time when we are also being flooded with advice from friends, family and perfect strangers. Everyone has a completely different story to tell about what was best for their child, but they all insist on being experts on what our child will need. At times I wonder if they are trying so hard to tell us that a ludicrously expensive gadget they found to be invaluable, because they don’t want to feel like they wasted their money and convinced themselves that it was essential.
Given the huge disparity in their tales I have a funny feeling it may be best to wait and see what our daughter is like, and what aspects we can cope with and what we can’t before buying everything under the sun. I’m sure we will very rapidly capitulate when sleep deprivation corrupts our rational thought centers, but in the mean time I want to attempt to stick to the line that “less is more” and people are better than things.
I am excited for her arrival and a little scared that I will mess up her life, but if she is anything like her mother she will ignore me anyway and turn out funny, lovely, clever and brilliant!
Nice to be able to stick my head back over the parapet after a crazy, busy and stressful home move. It is easy to see how a mildly challenging move, a bunch of lugging, a lack of time can all culminate in a negative spiral of energy and outlook for people.
You find yourself tired and short of time, so you go to the nearest place to eat unhealthy food and so that makes you feel even more sluggish. You aren’t hydrating and looking after yourself… slide slide and suddenly it s all done and you are so shattered you can’t be bothered to do the things that would make you feel more energized and ready to tackle the challenges.
Ours was only a short lived event and I am already planning an energizing meal and a nice refreshing surf tomorrow morning, but it is easy to see how sustained events could snowball into something far bigger than it ought to be.
In some ways it ermined me of this fascinating TED talk that demonstrated how illness could lead to fatigue and a poor diet and a worsening of the condition. It is an anecdotal account of a condition (MS) that can go into spontaneous remission, but it is fascinating none the less. The moral of the story is that, especially when the chips are down, take the time to eat well and do things you enjoy!